As a young woman entering into adulthood with lofty goals, sterling ideals, and great hope for the future I could have easily created a long list of my personal beliefs. This list would have included ideas about both the tangible and the intangible; broad concepts and specific ideals; God and mortal beings.
When I first was able to entertain the thought of marrying again after the death of my late husband, I was certain that I would fall to pieces when asked to utter the phrase, “till death do us part.” Those four words mean something completely different now…
Decision making was never difficult for me. Options don’t often confuse me, and once I have made a choice I rarely question myself. Over my lifetime I have come to realize that many people engage in a mental wrestling match with every decision they make, and I have regularly been grateful that my mind and I generally agree pretty quickly. And then came widowhood.
A comment made by a special friend about yesterday’s post got me thinking about the fact that people who have lost someone instrumental in their lives tend to view the world from a new, and unwanted, vantage point. After Phil’s death I remember thinking that death swooped in and stole my rose colored glasses…
“There is one friend in the life of each of us who seems not a separate person, however dear and beloved, but an expansion, an interpretation, of one’s self, the very meaning of one’s soul.” - Edith Wharton
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Michele Neff Hernandez told the audience gathered for the 11th annual Hats Off to Women luncheon that it was ironic to speak at an event to benefit the Simi Valley Hospital’s emergency room expansion project when her journey as a speaker and activist began in that same emergency room.
Michele Neff Hernandez of Simi Valley was named the recipient of the 2011 Women Today award. Hernandez is the founder and executive director of soaring Spirits Loss Foundation. She said earning such awards is a great way to get word out about her organization, which she founded four years ago when her husband died.
Tomorrow, Simi Valley streets will be the backdrop for the second annual Share the Road bike ride. The event is an effort by cyclists to build respect and consideration between motorists and themselves.